Dear "Confused" (by raunchy emails)

Dear Amy,

I have a friend of more than 20 years who sends me probably 20-25 e-mails a week with jokes, videos, etc.

Most of the time I don't mind, even though some of them are off-color. If I'm busy, I just delete them without looking at them.

However, last week I received two messages that made me very angry. To be specific, both featured several close-ups of female private parts with nothing left to the imagination.

I sent her an e-mail asking her not to send me this type of thing because they crossed the line between amusing and obscene.

I also wrote that I noticed that she had sent some of these messages to the recipients' work e-mail addresses and I didn't think this was a good idea.

She responded that she thought it was amusing that I sometimes watch "The Girls Next Door" yet I objected to her e-mails. Believe me, this TV show doesn't even come close to what her e-mails contained.

She also wrote that she didn't need me to tell her what was or wasn't a good idea.

I don't want to lose this person as a friend, but I find it bizarre that a woman in her 60s passes on this type of thing to both male and female friends.

She has been a loyal and good friend over the years.

I would appreciate your advice.

—Confused

Amy responded with a nice message about how friends don't send friends unsolicited porn during business hours. Kind of her. Here's my unlicensed advice:

Do you really know someone in her 60s who sends porn to people's work email? And do you really think that you need to defend Girls Next Door? Everyone knows that show is not on par with your nutty friend's naughty habit. You know what you should do? Hook her up with a somewhat sketchy guy who will push her too far. Then, when she whines about it, tell her that the inappropriateness is sort of like that one time when she insisted that she should be able to send around porn without judgement.